Perhaps, dear readers, you can help me with an issue that's been bothering me for some time now. I'm mystified by the concepts of time, timing, and scheduling and how they can mean such different things to different people. This comes up primarily in the context of dating, but it is not exclusively a dating issue.

Let me clarify. I am a doer (do-er?). What this means is that when I'm talking to someone and we get a good idea for something fun to do, for example, "a murder mystery party? Sounds like a fantastic idea," the next sentence out of my mouth is not "let's do it sometime," but it's "let's pick a date. How about next Saturday?" "Dim sum?" "Sure! What are you doing this weekend?" I don't want to hear the word "sometime." I want to know when.

I'm trying to figure out if this is a gender-specific phenomenon. If so, it might make me a little more understanding. If men just don't think this way, then I can't really expect them to. So -- what do you all think? All comments, stories, suggestions, and thoughts are welcome.

* A tribute to the Rolling Stones song of the same name.